"Husbands, Love Your Wives, And Be Not Bitter Against Them" (Col. 3:19)
By W. C. Moore
Not only is it true that God’s Word tells wives to submit to their husbands, but a very important instruction to husbands is that they, on their part, love their wives, "and be not bitter against them" (Col. 3:19).
In fact, Christ, Who is the Head of the husband (1 Cor. 11:3), expects the husband, as the head of the wife (Eph. 5:23), to really love his wife and never permit himself to take advantage of the fact that he has been placed in the position of headship.
It is so easy to blame the wife if things go wrong; it is so easy to forget that the wife gave up all to become your life companion – gave up even her very name, her home, and all.
It is so easy to forget that the "little" courtesies, the "little" kindnesses, the "little" acts of thoughtfulness – really make up the deciding issues in a Christian wife’s life – as to whether she is to be a happy, cooperative companion or otherwise.
"Be not bitter." Oh, the heartbreaks, the sorrow, the despair – and the resultant disasters that so often follow when bitterness and unkindness creep in!
Oh, if only the husbands had remembered and obeyed the Word of God which tells them to "Be not bitter" against that precious soul who has taken on your name – who has left all to be with you and to share life’s joys and sorrows with you!
"Be not bitter." God’s Word says it! It is a needed saying! It is so easy to take advantage of one over whom we have some sort of authority. O God, help us!
O ye husbands – remember the vow you made at the altar, when, before God and man, you deliberately, solemnly, promised that you would "love and cherish" that precious bride. My brother, a true wife never ceases to be your bride. Remember that – and remember your solemn vow – which God heard you make on your wedding day.
Perhaps even now you should go and ask your wife to forgive you for your failure to "love and cherish" her as you promised to do.
Love God and Keep His Commandments
Our blessed Heavenly Father wants us to permit all things to work together for OUR GOOD – and not for our harm (Rom. 8:28). He desires that we be so anointed with His Holy Spirit that we will be polished by the grindstone of life – not ground down!
No matter what your wife does – or what she does not do – God still says to you, "Be not bitter" against her. You may have to go to God desperately sometimes to be able to keep this Word – but, Brother, in Jesus’ Name, KEEP IT!
Wait not, I beseech you, but NOW, today, get right with God, and get right with that precious wife of yours – that God may be glorified, and that your prayers be not hindered (1 Pet. 3:7-8).
"For the husband is the head of the wife" (Eph. 5:23) and he must answer to God as head. Many husbands let the wife be the head – thus ignoring or despising God, and His Holy Word. But that very fact – that God has made him the head – should make the husband careful that he love his wife, and be not bitter against her.
…If young married couples would only start out right – to obey ALL God’s commands to both husbands and wives – Oh, how many shipwrecks and broken homes might be avoided! God’s ways are BEST!
Jesus, the Head of the Church (Eph. 5:23-24), commands to young married couples, a "leaving" of father and mother, and the setting up of a new household. Never let "in-laws" come between you and your wife or husband. When the Lord says "LEAVE" – He means it! Not that you are to be at enmity with your relatives, but have it understood that they are not to cause trouble in your own new home!
Also, "CLEAVE" to each other, wife and husband, through thick and thin – because the LORD has so commanded you! (Mark 10:1-12).
Husband and wife – remember that God must be FIRST! Neither the husband nor wife should honor the other mate above God! See the two great commandments – Matthew 22:36-40, and Mark 12:28-31. And Jesus says, concerning these two great commandments, "There is none other commandment greater than these" (Mark 12:31).